Fuera de la caja: Una perspectiva infantil
¿Ha visto alguna vez a un niño coger algo e investigarlo como si fuera la cosa más chula que ha visto en su vida? A menudo exploran lo que podríamos considerar las cosas más sencillas con curiosidad y entusiasmo. Es hermoso ver a un niño tan presente en el momento, aprendiendo y cautivado por las cosas que le rodean.
¿No es cierto que, como adultos, a veces nos perdemos tanto en el día a día que a veces no vemos lo que nos rodea? Nos olvidamos de estar presentes en el momento, lo que nubla nuestra capacidad de ver las grandes experiencias de aprendizaje y las fantásticas oportunidades. Diablos, ¡hasta nos olvidamos de respirar!
¿Cómo te sienta el color azul?
Podemos aprender mucho de los niños. Podemos aprender a ir más despacio y a estar en el aquí y el ahora. Podemos aprender a mirar casi todo con un entusiasmo renovado y ganas de explorar. Que seamos mayores e incluso más sabios no significa que seamos demasiado viejos para aprender, demasiado viejos para explorar ni demasiado viejos para jugar.
Es nuestro deseo que te regales (aunque sólo sea por una semana) la curiosidad y el espíritu de un niño. Tómate tu tiempo para detenerte y disfrutar explorando lo que te rodea. Mira las cosas a través de la lente de la curiosidad y fíjate en lo que ves. La clave está en ser curioso.
Team Talk
Curiosity: A Key Element of the Coach Approach
by Pamela Richarde, MA, MCC
Chief Coaching Advocate
Think about what we do as coaches: We listen. We ask questions. We clarify. We reflect the essence of what we hear/observe so that a client can see themselves. And then assist in moving to desired results. What we do is truly brilliant and helpful work.
And, what we do is not enough. Who we are being while coaching, is as important as what we are doing. This highlights an important guiding principle in our work as coaches: Curiosity. We must be curious Simply, if we are curious, we actually stimulate discovery, new awareness and ultimately results.
Assuming this is true, how can be learn to be more curious? Ciskszentmihalyi stated in his book “Flow”, that…..”…..we can develop our curiosity (and fight boredom) by making a conscious effort to direct our attention to something in particular in our environment.” So, if we direct our attention fully to our clients and become explorers, curious as to what we will discover together, this will actually enhance our ability to even BE curious!
Bottom line, building your capacity to be curiosity is a must for excellence in relating as a coach or in using a ‘coach approach’ in any situation.
Hear are some tips to building your curiosity muscle:
- Be a learner (be curious about things you absolutely don’t know about….and even more about what you believe you already know!)
- Be comfortable saying “I don’t know” (being in a state of not knowing can naturally stimulate curiosity and exploration)
- Seek, and be open to, other perspectives (ours is only one way of looking at the world)
- Model and reward curiosity (inspiring others to reach into new perspective and ideas, simply by ‘being curious’ yourself)
- Ask first, versus tell (exploring outside of your own thinking, solutions, beliefs, ideas)
- Try new things (stretch into exploring outside of your present knowing and experience)
- Stop, look, listen and have FUN!!
Curiosity is a ‘key’ that can unlock the inherent wisdom that is part of every being. It nurtures inquiry and self reflection. It is the food that is offered to the seeds of greatness in the soil of our psyches. So work to remember what it is like to be a curious as a young child. Practice being curious in all that you do. And of course, as noted above, have FUN doing it!
Cita del mes
“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” -Jane Howard
Who surrounds you? Are they people that positively support you? Or drain your energy and create drama? Take some time today to take stock of those closest to you, because it’s important to have people who add to your life in a positive way rather than take away from you.
¿Qué haría usted?
You are coaching a peer within your organization. The last two sessions you have noticed a change in attitude in your peer (and not for the better) which is impacting their work. They are missing deadlines and projects are going unfinished. They seem unaware of their attitude and the impact it’s having, not to mention, they don’t seemed phased by the missed deadlines and unfinished projects. What do you do?
