31 Addressing and eliminating obstacles Some obstacles may be apparent immediately, but most will take time to bring to the surface. The coach does this by listening deeply to what may only be detectable between the lines of what the coachee is saying. Or it may be listening for what isn’t being said at all. Curiosity and exploration catalyze the questions the coach will ask. Once on the surface, the coach and coachee can set up action plans to move the obstacle(s) out of the way, or eliminate them completely. Some questions the coach may ask: What may get in the way? I haven’t heard you say anything about , what’s going to happen with that? I heard you say you were tired/frustrated/ confused a few minutes ago. Is that going to impact your ability to do this in any way? What’s it going to take to work around/ through that? Acquiring appropriate support We all like to think of ourselves as independent and capable to do things on our own. Many people covet their autonomy and can become reluctant to ask for help, even in dire circumstances. The coach is always on the lookout for ‘support resistance’ and is always aware that support may be needed. In the Coaching Exchange, it could be enough to simply ask the coachee what support will be needed. If more exploration is necessary, the coach may have go back into Discovery and explore beliefs and attitudes around asking for help and securing support. Some questions the coach may ask: Who do you need assistance/help from to do this? What support do you need to do that? How do you feel about asking for help? How can I support you best? What would keep you from asking for help on this? PART THREE - THE 5 STEP COACHING EXCHANGE What Clearing the Way Means
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