90 P E R S ON A L G R OU N DWO R K F O R C OAC H I N G you care about and some you may care deeply about, but for whatever reason are not the best candidates for complete and unconditional trust or the ones who compliment the very best within you. They are fun to be with and bring great joy to your life, but there may be an element of cost associated with this relationship for whatever reason or an occasional feeling that you must guard or protect yourself. There may even be a potential for small and unintentional betrayals. There is value in spending time with them and often it turns out just fine. For most of us this can be a very large and vast group of people that we interact with frequently. This may be a higher maintenance group that requires some elevated communication skills on your part such as occasional boundary setting and clarifying conversations. The C Team The “C” Team consists of people who you may not know well enough yet or people who you know for certain are enjoyable but have a history or a strong potential to cause small to medium upsets or disruptions for you or with the people around you. “C” Team individuals may also make you feel as if you can only take so much of them and give you a strong sense of wanting to hold them at arm’s length. People in the “C” Team can be very high maintenance. They may require frequent boundary setting and a careful watch when you are interacting with them. With “C” Team members you will need to remain on your guard and watch that you are not setting yourself up for disappointment or disruption by expecting more from them than they are capable of doing or giving. Too much exposure to them can wear on you so it is important to be very conscious of how much time you want to spend with them and in what way. The D Team The “D” stands for DISCONNECT. People who make the “D” Team in our lives are typically and habitually toxic individuals that have caused a high degree of disruption and upset for us and need to be disconnected from our lives. They manage to drag us down, make us feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled, or confused frequently. With these people poor or hurtful behavior cannot be cleared up by voicing our concerns or making boundaries. They are consistently self-absorbed, cruel, needy, or disloyal or a combination of all these things and are unable or unwilling to change their behavior. In general, they take too much and give nothing in return.
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