116 P E R S ON A L G R OU N DWO R K F O R C OAC H I N G RELATIONSHIPS AND ROLE ATTACHMENTS Let’s look at attachments in relationships. You may have people in your orbit who would be angry, put off or resistant to you making changes. What we are inviting you to look at here is your attachments to the role(s) you play with others. For example, you may be attached to being “the provider” or “the nurturer” or “the rock”. That attachment to how that relationship looks can keep you in a rut, prohibit change, and keep you inflexible. Where this may become difficult is in the attachments others have to you playing this role for them. Detaching from the roles we play, or modifying these roles, is often necessary to facilitate change. To begin with you need to identify the roles you play before you can see if they get in the way of change for you. Take a look at the following and identify the roles you play THE ROLES WE PLAY THE ROLES I PLAY (AT HOME, AT WORK, IN MY COMMUNITY, IN MY FAMILY ...) The Mediator The Wise One The Provider The Outspoken One The Nurturer The Assertive One The Director The Diligent One The Clown The Optimistic One The Motivator The Sacrificer The Cheerleader The Shepherd The Rock The Inspirer The Voice of Reason The Life of the Party The Consistent One The Serious One The Adorer The Janitor The Leader The Muse The Positive One The Coach The Intellect The Captain The Calm One The Sage The Predictable One The Mommy The Polite One The Daddy The One who needs to be taken care of The Sergeant The One who holds it all together The Confident One Other ...
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