46 STEP TWO: ADAPTING TO CHANGE The ability to understand that change is innate and to welcome it, trust it and enjoy the journey. Just about everyone wants to change something somewhere in their personal or business life. It could be as small as the style of your hair or as big as a career. We often hear ourselves and others saying, “I want…” or “I wish I could….” or “Someday I will…”. Regardless of what the end of the statement is, very few of those wants, wishes, and somedays come to fruition because to get there often requires change. Many of us tend to fear change – even when we are in almost unbearable situations. Many times, we have to let things get to the unbearable stage before we finally do make a change or we are forced to change. But why? One reason is that change represents risk. And at the core of risk there is fear for many of us because: • We don’t know what the new change will be like. • We don’t trust ourselves or our skills to cope with new circumstances. • We are uncomfortable in the transition. • We feel we may lose something. • It can be confusing and feel chaotic. • Things may be worse than what exists already. With all these possibilities it’s no wonder we don’t want anything to change. With that in mind, what can we do to overcome our aversion towards change? We can begin by examining our beliefs about it. Many of us have received multiple messages from many sources throughout our lives about change and have built our relationship with it based on these messages. These messages were given to us by the behavior and words of those around us as we were forming who we are today. Most of these messages we weren’t even aware we were receiving and adopting as our beliefs. Let’s take a few minutes to examine some of them.
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