Today we had a good conversation about the value of questions in the coaching exchange. The following is a compilation of what came out of that conversation. Our hope is that you continue the conversation by sharing this post and commenting with YOUR beliefs about questions.
- Authentic curiosity is stimulated by asking WHAT questions, not by When or How questions which tend to go towards solutions.
- Why questions are rare in coaching because they ask you to defend or explain your position instead of exploring it.
- You could do a whole coaching session using nothing but what questions that would accomplish everything you would need to do in a coaching exchange.
- The large majority of our questions are open ended questions (one you can’t answer in one word, or by yes or no).
- Powerful questions should make the person dig for an answer.
- Silence in and of itself can be a form of a question.
- The purpose of questions in coaching is for the person being coached to develop more self awareness.
- Leading questions could lead them to the awareness the coach thinks they should have and that is why we avoid them.
- There is no perfect question. The next question is the best one.
- Coachees already possess the answers. Our role as coaches is to give them the questions to dig for them.