Reflect on Your Observations
In class you had the opportunity to observe, or be part of a live coaching exchange. Reflect on what you learned and write a Note-To-Self to retain that awareness. Tip: Re-watch the class video to pick up other ideas and insights.
Consider these questions to craft your note to self:
- What worked well?
- What did I learn by observing this coaching session?
- How will I integrate and/or incorporate this learning into my coaching?
Note-ToSelf HERE (can we put the question above in the NTS?)
Practice Coaching this week.
Coach your Practice Partner or a client at least once this week.
If you were the Coach today, self-assess your artwork.
Congratulations on doing a live coaching session.
Nerve racking? ... Often.
A learning opportunity? ... Let's see.
An additional way to learn the ICF core competencies is to observe them in action. This exercise has several objectives:
- Listen to the class recording of your coaching exchange to discover more learnings.
- Assess your own coaching exchange using the Competency Observer Guide
- Document your insights to use in your development as a coach.
(PORTO) DOWNLOAD Buttons for both PDF and DOC of file: Competency_Observer_Guide.2020.4.xxxINSERT NTS (can we put the question above in the NTS?)
INSERT CLASS VIDEO HERE
Advanced Skill: Requesting
We covered the core coaching skill of Requesting in the 555 Coaching Skills Training Program as well.
We bring it back to your attention now, because in order to do this skill really well, it takes a refined ability to Listen, to ask power Questions, an effective use of silence and experience with the pace of a powerful coaching exchange.
It is our expectation, that at this point in your coach development, those previous skills are becoming much more refined, operate well together and you are ready take this advance skill on.
Requesting
- Used when the coachee is ready to be stretched into thinking bigger, acting bolder or liberating themselves from something.
- Is an advance skill.
- Is not used in every coaching exchange.
- Is a strong message that the coach sees more in the coachee than they might see in themselves.
- Shows the coach believes the coachee to be capable of more than they may feel capable of themselves.
- Challenges a coachee’s perception of themselves and what is possible.
A Request is not a demand or expectation.
The coachee ALWAYS has three options in response to a Request.
- Accept it
- Reject it
- Negotiate it
A request is NOT what the coach wishes or wants for the coachee. It is about bringing focused awareness to something the coachee could use to step towards their own goals and desires.
EXAMPLE EXCHANGE:
Coach: "May I make a request of you? As always you have the choice to accept my request, modify if, or ignore it."
Coachee: “Ok go ahead”
Coach: “My request is that you stop looking at this as a chronic condition and begin to look at it as an opportunity to learn”
Coach: silence
Coachee: responds
The coaching then shifts to supporting the response of the coachee (vs. repeating or mandating the request)
It is a way to inject a different perspective, causing a pause in the current thinking pattern of the coachee with the intention to move the client forward towards their goal.
Key Learning Points
- Requesting asks the coachee to think bigger, act bolder or liberate themselves from something.
- Use a request when the coachee is stuck, holding back or selling themselves short.
- Requests send a powerful message that the coach sees something bigger for them.
- Make the request and allow the coachee to accept, reject or negotiate the request.
- Anchor the commitment to the request by asking for a deadline or timeline and specific action(s).
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