Skill: Requesting Copy

5.5.5 Topics5.5.5 Key Learning PointsSkill: Requesting

Requesting
A request is not a demand or expectation
Example conversations
What requesting is not
Requesting Exercise
Key learning points

Note: This is an advanced skill that requires proficiency in using the Coaching Exchange, Listening, Questioning and Encouraging.

Requesting asks the coachee to think bigger, act bolder or liberate themselves from something.
Coaches make requests when the coachee is stuck, holding back or selling themselves short.
Requests send a powerful message that the coach sees something bigger for them.
A request is constructed by seeing the opportunity to make a request, making the request and then allowing the coachee to accept, reject or negotiate the request.
It is important for the coach to anchor the commitment to the request by asking for a deadline or timeline and specific action(s).

Note: Requesting is the one skill that is new to many. Its sounds easy and logical at first, yet it is a skill because it is hard to do effectively in the moment without showing judgement, bias or directing the coachee.